Making sure I 'do' dont become I 'dont'. By Tiffany Ng

Who does not want to have a conflict-free marriage? Even though all marriage couples will hope for a conflict-free marriage, there will always be disagreements. This is because marriage makes two individuals with separate personalities having different tastes and likings to come together and lead life as husband and wife. Thus, there are bound to be disagreements. However, such conflicts can be resolved through genuine efforts from both husband and wife. As the chinese saying goes “床头打架床尾合”, it means that the no matter how serious the couples have fought, they won't hold grudges  with each other.

I believe that most of you will agree that having proper communication between married couples will help to solve disagreements in a marriage. Married couples should spend more time together sharing about their problems or joy and at the same time try to discuss about the solutions to the problems. Couple should not avoid their disagreements as problems should not be accumulated. It will not automatically go away. The build up of unattended marital problems through the years could be a dangerous thing in your marriage. One mistake of married couple is to let the problems linger that it became a recurring issue in their marriage. It is easier to overcome marriage problems if you will deal with it in real time. Marital problems should be dealt as soon as they arise.Hence, both parties should face the marital problem and solve it. Proper communication will also help them to understand each other better. Not only that, when couples faced disagreements, they should also talk about it peacefully which will help to solve the problem peacefully.

Next, couples should also allow ample personal space to their partner as it will strengthen the relationship.They should not suffocate each other by not allowing personal space to pursue personal activities. Allowing personal space is healthy for the couple and they will value the time spend together. In addition, it will also help to build the trust of the married couples. Mutual trust between couples is also very important in resolving conflicts.

Thirdly, married couples can also seek help from professionals. If couples are unable to work out a solution on their conflicts or disagreements, they should consult a marriage counselors and experts who can help them to overcome marriage problems. Marriage counsellors will be able to provide couples with advices as well as some ways to deal with the problems in the marriage. In addition, marriage counsellors can also help to improve the communications between couples so that they can settle their disagreements peacefully.

In conclusion, I believe that disagreements or conflicts in a marriage can be solved through the several methods I have proposed. With good communication between couples, problems can be easily soved and not accumulate to a point whereby there is no turning back. Also, no matter how much both partners love each other, they shoul alway respect each others' freedom and give them enough personal space to pursue what they want to do. Holding on too tightly to your partner will always put on stress to the relationship, just like a rubber band, when you stretch it too much, it wll break. Last but not least, seeking help from somebody who is better at handling problems than you are is always a better option if things get out of hand.